February 18

Master Key Experience – Week 20

Ooh, look at all those sharp edges…

We Live the Life We Chose

We are faced with day to day, minute by minute choices. Do we choose the ones that involve risk, or do we go with the comfortable? More often than not it’s the safe, comfortable ones. After a lifetime of choosing between comfort and perceived risk, what we are left with is the life we have. Disappointed? No sense in playing the blame game. We are what we are because of a lifetime of choices.

If this is all true (which it appears to me that it is), then the comfort zone will control us until we decide to control it.

Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone (?)

No one likes to do that! Too painful, or scary. Personal growth and self-help gurus sell tons of books and programs spouting “get out of your comfort zone,” when most of us just won’t, or can’t. It just doesn’t happen in real life. Fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings, and anger are the five components of the comfort zone. Any one, or a combination of them, could be what’s holding you captive in your comfort zone (“we are what we are because of a lifetime of choices”). Continue reading

February 6

Master Key Experience – Week 18

Keys to Happiness (and Success)

Remember that we’ve been studying how to implement change in our lives? There is scientific proof for some of the methods suggested in the Master Key Experience. According to studies started at Harvard University, research over the past 30 years in what is now called “positive psychology” has found that people who are happy perform better- up to 37% better in relationships, acquaintances, and in business.

A Conundrum

Most people think that if we work harder we will become successful, and when we become successful we will be happy. In reality, it’s the other way around. We need to reverse the formula for happiness and success.

Every time your brain has a success, you’ve just changed what the goalpost of success looked like. Whatever that was, it has now become the next bigger or better thing. If happiness is on the opposite side of success, your brain will never get there. We’ve pushed our idea of success over our mind’s horizon. Continue reading